September 1, 1998 ~ August 22, 2021

Born in: Atlanta, GA
Resided in: Boston, MA

Kendall Patrick Castañeda, passed away on August 22nd from natural causes.  Born in Atlanta, September 1, 1998, he spent the last 5 years in Boston, his adopted hometown.  He is preceded in death by his Paternal Grandparents, Froilan and Zosima Castañeda, and his Maternal Grandfather, Richard Draffin, Jr. He is also preceded by fellow Posse Foundation alum/chosen family member Erin Edwards.

He leaves us to continue his path; of chosen happiness, loving wholeheartedly, a big proponent of goofiness, and continual learning to – his mother, Mercedes Draffin (Paul Miller), his siblings, Zosima  Castañeda (Kyle Nicklaw, and nephew Julio), Ethan Castañeda (Amber Harville), Courtney Castañeda, Emma Castañeda (Dominik Bedzyk), his partner Brianna Gilmore, his Best Friends Ron Thompson and Simeon Webb, his close cousin Karen Castañeda, Uncle and Aunt Robert and Leslie Castañeda (Avery  Castañeda) and Uncle Frederick Castañeda, and his Maternal Grandmother, Ann Draffin an His #BU2021 Posse (Chosen Family): Nancy Lowenstein, Abdullaah Robins, Archelle Thelemaque, Christian Vanleer, Diem (DM) Maxwell, Kamilah Harruna, Kesha Perkins, MC Carradine.

There are hundreds and hundreds of you who have had connections with him, and we cannot list you all here, but you know what you meant to him and what he meant to you.  And truly… every word he ever said to each and every one of you, he meant. You probably already know that.

While we deeply mourn this unexpected passing, we are celebrating 2 things.  1) His Memory and 2) You. 

Kendall lived his entire life with a fullness of heart and wasted not one single minute he was given.  He gave of himself, his time, his focus, his assistance, his laughter, his smile, and his hugs.  His hugs were phenomenal.  We are comforted by the fact that he lived daily without regret, and loved those he loved unconditionally and completely. We have NO doubt that when he passed unexpectedly, and peacefully, it was with no regret and no remorse.  He knew how much and richly he was loved and conversely, we all knew how he felt about us. Although he graduated from Boston University in May 2021, Kendall left a big footprint there and could not walk down Commonwealth Avenue without seeing someone he knew, and giving a big smile and wave to them as he rushed to a class or activity.

To his siblings, blood related and chosen, Kendall was a constant source of laughter and light, even when he was a “pain in the ass”. He was passionate about helping others obtain success and whether that was through a small conversation or actively seeking out resources and connections for those he loved. Kendall’s ability to bring ease and joy into the conversation, even in the toughest of times, was one of his most unique and memorable qualities. He was able to turn anything into a joke and would do whatever it took to bring a smile to someone’s face, whether that be his sister or a random stranger on the street. His smile in of itself was infectious enough to break up a mundane day and become a shining light to us all, and now he watches over us all by brightening the night sky to lighten up our lives even when he is no longer with us. His terribly amazing jokes, infectious positivity, and outward philanthropy allowed everyone he interacted with to see straight into his open heart and affinity for kindness and character. 

And then there’s you. Your sharing of the tsunami of pictures and stories is overwhelming, in a joyful way, and something that is keeping our spirits up.  I don’t think Kendall understood, truly, his impact on his various communities.  You are reminding us that he’s been this luminary well before his college years.  Thank you for that gift. 

He was an active leader and contributor in the community from community fridges, to BUFSA, his Posse Family, his work with the MCU as both a team leader and it’s President.  He was on the Dean’s list innumerable times and was inducted into the highly regarded Scarlet Key Society upon Graduation.  He graduated from Boston University with a Bachelor of Arts in Sociocultural Anthropology and a Minor in Computer Science.  He was  Resident Assistant of the Month, October 2019, and Justin Flynn Community Award, April 2020. 

While at BU, he successfully served on the Executive Board of the Minority Connection Initiative and the Filipino Student Association, completed two internships at Deloitte, as well as the CodeU Program at Google. He served as a Program Advisor and Common Ground speaker for BU’s Summer Orientation team, and a Resident Assistant for BU Residence Life, as well as developing funding for BU’s annual fund as he worked at the Student Philanthropy center. 

He’s remembered not only for the heights he accomplished for himself and for others, but for his intention, thoughtfulness, hope, curiosity, and gratitude which he poured wholeheartedly into everything he did. 

We challenge you to dance goofily, or very well, to music when a good beat presents, try the good new food, learn something new, challenge yourself, hold someone’s hand who is scared, never let anyone eat alone who seems like they are doing so unintentionally, to love wholly and completely, so that those around you never have to wonder where they stand.

We ask that donations, in lieu of flowers, be made to the below, in his name Kendall Patrick Castaneda:

Arrangements will be Virtual, located below, and are handled by Wages & Sons Funeral Home in Lawrenceville.  The virtual service will begin on Wednesday, September 1, 2021 at 12:00PM. We will keep you all updated through the Wages and Son website and social media.

As we can see, life is short. Go live it, and love it, fully..  It’s hard to imagine going forward without Kendall’s heart and wisdom to guide us, because he brings out the best in us. But As Kendall would say, “Not with that attitude!”




Live Streamed Service: September 1, 2021 12:00 pm - September 1, 2021 1:00 pm

Wages & Sons Gwinnett Chapel
1031 Lawrenceville Hwy.
Lawrenceville, GA 30046


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  1. CandleImageKendall,

    My Third son!! You came into my life through Brianna and immediately became apart of our Family. You had instant impact, a calming voice, and reason beyond any person I’ve ever known. Our texts were amazing, sharing music and side jokes. This is a terrible loss for our family. God needed a warrior, and you my son are every bit of that… Watch over us, keep Brianna strong from up above. I love you kid and we will see each other again soon.


  2. May his memory give you strength, the love of all who met and cared for him keep you strong, help and guide you through this incredibly difficult time! With deep and profound sorrow; my thoughts, prayers and love are with you all!!

  3. CandleImageDearest Kendal we were so happy to meet you and spent a few holidays together
    You had a smile to light up a room! Now the recipe I gave you you can make up in the heavens rest with the angels Kendal we will miss u!

  4. CandleImageBeautiful Kendall, I’m so glad I had the opportunity to meet such an wonderful person. You were so well respected, friendly, smart in all genuine beautiful person. You’d always had such a huge smile every time you came to visit with Brianna. I don’t think we ever saw you not smiling. You were wonderful to my nephews. You were such an inspiration and someone that they could look up to – what’s even more important to me was that you made my niece so happy. You both were inseparable. You were a true gentleman and in a way an old soul. I’m honored that I got to witness this love and partnership that you both had for one another. My prayers and condolences go out to your mom and your family. Your mom raised a very special man. Rest with the angels!

  5. CandleImageKendall thank you for always being authentically you and being a inspiration for everyone around you. You will truly be missed and forever loved. Love, Fuzzy Bay Area Posse 1

  6. CandleImageI met Kendall only once in early 2017 as he was preparing to enroll at BU, but he made a real impression on me. How fortunate, I thought, that our campus would receive such a bright, enthusiastic student. His energy and intelligence made me feel proud for BU. We were lucky to have him, and he will be missed.

    I extend my deepest, heartfelt condolences to his friends and family.

  7. CandleImageKendall you were such an amazing person, and we will never forget you brother. We will celebrate you every year, and make sure Julio and Jun know exactly how much their tito loved them. Zosima and I both loved you so much.
    Until we meet again in the stars I hope you rest peacefully.

  8. CandleImageEven though I have only spent time with you a handful of times, I saw how your connection with Brianna was so special and it was always such an incredible sight to see. I’ve never seen such a big and bright smile on someone’s face before. You radiated nothing but positive energy and love and it is amazing to see how truly loved you were by everyone. It was such a blessing to have met you, I send my condolences to all family and friends.

    Rest easy Kendall ❤️

  9. CandleImageI keep struggling to think of words because all of this just doesn’t seem real. He is such an accomplished young man and is now the youngest person in our family to know all of those unanswered questions we all have All I know is I loved Kendall so much and always will. I pray for comfort and peace for all of you in the days ahead. I love you all so much. #teamkendall

  10. CandleImageTo Kendall’s Family,
    Kendall was such a warm, caring young man. As everyone has noted, his smile lit up a room, his hugs were encasing and his laugh contagious. He was a strong advocate for Posse on the BU campus and was a mentor to younger Posse groups and other minority students. He made a big impact without even meaning to and his loss has reverberated through all of the BU campus.
    I loved him as my son, I loved our conversations, I loved how he trusted me with his pain and let me be a part of his growth. Kendall never failed to ask me how I was doing and always took an interest in others.
    I miss him, I know that he and Erin are looking down on us and will be guiding us all. I will keep his family in my thoughts and prayers as they move forward without their beloved Kendall.

  11. CandleImageWhat a shocking sadness to lose Kendall. I’m sending deepest condolences to his siblings and to everyone who was in his world of love. Do good work with him held tight in your heart.

  12. The world has lost a wonderful young man, with a smile that brought light to everyone who met or worked with him. It was an honor to have him in several classes. May his soul rest in peace.

  13. CandleImageA beautiful soul left this world. He blessed each of us with a memory, a hug, a friendship. I will take those gifts and share them. I was lucky to know Kendall. I knew him through his diving and his support of the Berkmar swim and dive team. He would be sad that we are grieving him and would find the bright spot in this sorrow. I hope his family, life partner and friends can do the same.
    Pumunta sa kapayapaan.😇💕

  14. CandleImageI’m sending you our deepest condolences to you and your family Mercy from your AWS professional working family.

  15. CandleImageKendall lit up my classroom and the lives of his classmates with his joy, optimism, enthusiasm, and intelligence. The world is a darker place without him. Heart broken condolences to his family, friends, and loved ones.

  16. CandleImageI send my condolences to the family of Kendall. I only knew Kendall for a short period of time in GSLT but I will never forget the time we spent together. He could light up any room and was an inspiration to many. Rest peacefully my friend.

  17. CandleImageI am so happy to have met you and been able to be involved in your leadership journey through GSLT. An incredible light in everyone’s life. You will be missed.

    • CandleImageLove you, brother. I’ll never forget you. Your light will continue to shine on through us. I owe you like a thousand meals when I see you again!

      Anthony Dongfack
      #LLK #LLE

  18. CandleImageKendall, thank you for always being so kind to me & to everyone you ever met. We never had the chance to spend that much time together, but whenever we saw each other, you always said hi, gave me a hug, and asked how I was. I’ll never forget those small moments. I’m so glad we saw each other while we were taking grad pictures and I could congratulate you, because you truly deserved it. You were a true light in everyone’s lives and your smile was beautiful and bright and warm. I want to lead my life in your example, and we all celebrate and remember you and your legacy. Happy Birthday Kendall. We love and miss you, but we know you’re watching over us with Erin up there.

    To Kendall’s family – I am so sorry for your loss, and am sending much love to you in this time. Kendall impacted everyone’s lives, no matter how big or small.

  19. CandleImageSo very heartbroken. You were far too young to be taken from us. Your family will be in our prayers. We will always remember your smile. We were very blessed to have known you thru wrestling and then diving.

  20. CandleImageHeartbroken. My world was forever changed meeting and teaching the entire Castaneda crew. Kendall was always a light, full of laughter, creativity, and kindness. He did great things. Please know I am thinking of you all and love you. He will truly be missed. 💙

  21. CandleImageMuch love to you all. You rallied around me with Rae and now it is your turn. Something that I would never wish on anyone. Bless all of you. Blessings for Kendall. xo

  22. CandleImageKendall,

    It’s hard to associate you with death. You shared more life than anyone I knew back in high school. I regret that I did not make more efforts to keep in touch these past few years. But, I do cherish the last conversation we had. I learned you graduated and congratulated you. Even with the praise that you were getting, you still cared to ask how I have been doing the last couple of years. That was the man you were. A man who shared his light with the world around him.

    I will miss you,

  23. CandleImageThank you for all the support and guidance you’ve given me, even when you had such a busy schedule. You inspired me, Kendall. Happy birthday ❤️

  24. Kendall had such a sweet spirit and I am glad to have had an opportunity to interact with him. Sending my condolences to the family and will keep you all in my prayers.

    Regina Frazier

  25. CandleImageLove you mooch! Your friendship meant the world to me. I’ll never forgot you lil bro 💙 i hope we meet again soon.

  26. CandleImageKendall was a kind spirit; he brought light to every room he walked in. His smile was so infectious. Happy Birthday KP, there’s always room for you in the GuleClan Party. Love you brother!

  27. Thank you for being one of my first friends and the best roommate at BU. You were such a shining light for me, especially those times when I came home sad and you cheered me right up. I hope to see you again someday Kendall, and we can run some fifa like the old days. Love you brother

  28. CandleImageThank you for touching so many lives Kendall. Your light will live on with all of us, even with the slightest that saw your smile.🤍
    My thoughts and prayers to every loved one and family.

  29. CandleImageRIP Kendall. I wish I’d had the chance to know you better, but through your mother and your sisters, I feel like I knew you all the same.

  30. CandleImagethank you for being such a radiant light and love in this world. you truly made a beautiful impact. fly high 💛🕊✨

  31. CandleImageKendall was a bright force in the classroom and in all his loved ones’, classmates’, and professors’ hearts. May all those who knew and loved him remember the joy he brought and have the strength to go on without him walking our world. Rest in peace, Kendall.

  32. CandleImageSending my love and condolences to Kendall’s family. He was a wonderful person and will be missed dearly.

  33. CandleImageEven still you are such a light on the lives of so many. I’m honored to have spent some time with someone with such infectious positive energy and authenticity. Rest easy, Kendall.

  34. CandleImageRest in Peace, Kendall. I will also remember our conversations and your “warm fuzzy” from PPR in 2018. You left Boston University a better place because of your time here. My deepest condolences to Kendall’s family, Posse and loved ones. Posse Love

  35. CandleImageIt hurts to see someone so full of life pass especially at such a young age. We didn’t keep contact after high school and I regret that. But I guess you are still teaching us even after everything. What bring me comfort is knowing so many people love and adore you. You were the definition of a person living life to the fullest everyday. The time you had on this Earth was more than a single life time.

    I hope you still smile the way you do, up high.

  36. CandleImageWe love you so much Kendall. You were the brightest light in my found family at BU. Your smile and energy was radiant. You were an inspiration and I always admired you, and I always will. We will spread positivity and kindness and love forever in your memory. Thank you for everything. The impact you have on all your loved one is amazing and we’ll be missing you forever. Rest easy. <3

  37. CandleImageIt was an absolute joy for me to work with all of the “Castaneda Kids”. Kendall had such a kind spirit full of love and light. May his memory be a blessing to all who knew him.
    Forever your friend,
    Stephanie Twitty Carmon – former Assistant Principal – Bethesda Elementary School

  38. CandleImageLove you always Kendall. Thank you for being such a beacon of love and happiness and joy. Your legacy will not be forgotten. Sending your family strength and love.

  39. CandleImageKendall already made the world a better place during his too-short life. He touched so many lives with his warmth, humor, dedication to social justice, boundless energy, and of course his luminous smile. He was a joy to have in the classroom, and I’m sure I learned more from him than he did from me. I will always remember his delight at his own intellectual breakthroughs, the way he lit up even a large lecture room, and his unique turn of mind.

    My deepest sympathies are with Kendall’s family. Please know we loved your Kendall dearly.

  40. CandleImageThoughts and prayers to the family. Rest easy Lil bro. May your spirit and love, live in forever. You were truly one of a kind.

  41. Kendall, I am so glad that the last time I had the chance to enjoy your presence was an occasion of joy for every BU student – Marathon Monday. Rapping Drake’s “Laugh Now, Cry Later” with you, Sim, Ron, and Amir two times in a row in your living room because it “went too hard” the first time is a memory I’ll have forever. Thank you for being a beacon of light in all aspects of life. You are an inspiration among your peers, a role model for your successors. You are so loved and always will be. Thank you for being you.

    To Bri, his friends, family, Posse mates, and loved ones, I am so sorry your loved one has left so soon. His impact radiates beyond his time here on Earth. He changed so many lives for the better, mine included, whether he knew it or not. I know you are unbelievably proud of him. I definitely am.

    Rest in perfect peace, Kendall.

  42. Kendall,
    You continue to shine through those you left behind. In my seminar you were the most compelling, most positive force, a friend to all, a guide to me, your teacher, in the way you faced the world and yourself. You left the room, the light dimmed. You arrived, the light infused us all.

  43. CandleImageI am so glad to have experienced a once in a lifetime, bright soul such as yours Kendall. There are not many words I can say because it’s all unbelievable and disheartening. I’m thankful for the moments we shared, no matter how small or long ago. You made people around you feel on cloud 9 and so secure with you. I’m sending light and love to all his close loved ones. I’ll miss you beyond this lifetime. I hope you’re having the best rap battles up there.
    RIP KPC 💙

  44. CandleImageI am heartbroken. Kendall was the light of my class.. My deepest condolences to his family and friends. He will live in our hearts and our minds…

  45. CandleImageKendall,

    I’m feeling blessed to have gotten to know you over the past four years. You’ve had a huge impact on everyone in your life, and you will be missed dearly. If anyone has ever wondered what success looks like, it looks like you, Kendall. Everything you put your mind and heart to you did effortlessly. You built other people up. You met people where they were. You made people feel loved with your presence alone. Happy Birthday bro, we’re celebrating you today.

    I’m sending my love to you and the family—I’m sorry for your loss. Looking forward to when we get to squad up again. Save me a spot up there. Rest easy Kendall.

    – Spencer

  46. CandleImageI don’t think I’ve ever met someone so kind and full of life.. We weren’t that close in high school. I had you in my orchestra class but that was about it. I didn’t like talking to many, let alone put myself out there. But you always said hi. You didn’t need to, but you always did. That “hi” was enough to get me through honestly. I regret not getting to know you more. I wish I did. Your smile was so bright, full of love.
    I hope you Rest In Peace, smiling bright with the angels.. You didn’t deserve this. I’m sorry.

    My deepest condolences to his family, friends and Brianna. ❤️

  47. CandleImageThat was a truly beautiful service. It was always abundantly clear to me that Kendall was loved by everyone who knew him, and for damn good reason. He was a very bright light indeed, and the world is better for the brief time he was in it. Much love to all of you.

  48. I love you so much, Kendall. The love you held in your heart touched so many. Always so inquisitive and eager, I know the time you’ve spent searching. I hope you know that it was always present, always there – with you, as you. You were the light, my friend.

  49. CandleImageDearest Mercy and family-
    I didn’t know Kendall directly. But I’ve watched from afar as he accomplished one remarkable thing after another. The absolute HUGENESS of his life has been evident for years. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, and for the emptiness his passing leaves. I hold space, and love, and the peace of the Goddess for you.

  50. CandleImageKendall,
    You were and always will be a shining light. You are one of the purest souls I have ever met and loved. I miss you dearly. Thank you for always being such an amazing presence and a huge impact on my life, friend.
    My heart is with you and your family always. ❤️

  51. I worked with Kendall for nearly two years at BU, and it was always a joy when he walked into a room. I have never met someone who interacts with others quite like he did — he was smart, and funny, but more than that, he was one of the kindest people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing. When he asked about your day, it was because he was truly interested; if he asked how you were, he really wanted to know. I am so glad to have known such a remarkably caring person, even if our time as friends was cut too short.

    To the family and friends who raised him, please know through this heartbreaking loss that those of us who knew Kendall are so grateful to you and to him for his impact on those around him. His memory remains an incandescent light and will always be cherished.

  52. CandleImageIm glad to have had the opportunity of meeting you. I genuinely wished we could’ve kicked it more. I would’ve loved to be able to have followed up with you to see if you would’ve wanted to go to the KAYTRANADA concert. 😔 Im grateful that our most recent interaction was full of joy and bliss.May your soul remain safe along your new venture. ❤️

  53. CandleImageKendall I only knew you for a short period of time, i feel like I have known you much longer. Your last words to me on Saturday September 21st was “I appreciate you” I can still see your big smile as you were walking up the street to 21 Melville. Gone way to soon, you have gained your wings, so now you can look after your loved ones who are left here on earth. Happy Heavenly Birthday.

    Adrianne your neighbor

  54. Pretty much everytime I saw him I would say to myself, “oh hey, there’s Kendall 🙂” Can’t wait to say it again ❤️

  55. CandleImageAs untimely as your passing was, your presence and influence will continue to have a positive impact on all of us who had the pleasure of getting to know you.
    Rest well bro.
    You’ll be forever missed.

  56. CandleImageRip Kendall I miss you bro fr. I remember middle school and high school. I can’t get that image of you turning up to nebu kiniza gassed up in ms burke class. Priceless infectious smile

  57. CandleImageHey, mooch. Thinking of you so much today. I can’t believe it’s somehow been a year without you, it doesn’t seem real. I’ve started my second year of college, I wish you could come see it all, it’s amazing. I hope heaven is treating you well. I love and miss you so much every single day. I see you in the stars and the sunrise and sunset each day. I hope I’m making you proud. Love you bud.

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