June 25, 1947 ~ December 2, 2020

Born in: Albany, IN
Resided in: Fernandina Beach, FL

Marilyn Kay Gilder, 73, of Fernandina Beach, FL passed away Wednesday, December 2, 2020 at Osprey Village surrounded by her husband, Frank, and her daughter, Lauren after an eight month battle with glioblastoma.

Kay was born in New Albany, IN and was raised in Frankfort, KY. Her father was an Air Force officer and her mother, a nurse. As a teenager, she traveled extensively with them.

She graduated high school in Boston, MA and entered the School of Radiologic Technology at Massachusetts General Hospital. After her father was assigned to a posting in Southeast Asia she returned home to Frankfort and finished her training in Lexington, KY and then took a position at a local hospital.

While attending a professional meeting in New Orleans in 1971 she met “a fellow”, Frank Gilder from Atlanta. After a year of long distance courtship and romance and while at another professional meeting in Denver, Frank talked her into marriage. Frank helped her move to Atlanta and assisted her with finding a job there. In November 1972 they were wed.

Kay went to work at Emory University Hospital, in the Cardiac Cath Lab. While there she was fortunate to have the opportunity to work with Dr. Andreas Gruntzig, the cardiologist who was instrumental in developing balloon angioplasty of the coronary arteries.

For her dedication to the X-Ray and Imaging profession she was awarded lifetime membership in both the Atlanta and Georgia Society of Radiologic Technology.

Upon retiring in 1999 Kay and Frank moved to Amelia Island to be near Frank’s brother and sister. Kay and Frank became active in a local dance club and enjoyed taking cruises and other travel adventures.

She leaves behind her husband, John Frank Gilder of Fernandina Beach; a beautiful daughter, Lauren (Joe) Perkins of Woodstock, GA; her step-sons, John (Bo) Gilder of Norfolk, VA and Jeff (Genie) Gilder of Alpharetta, GA. Kay and Frank have seven grandchildren, Ryan, Molly and Riley Perkins of Woodstock, GA, Griffin and Grayson Gilder of of Alpharetta, GA, Megan and Hailey Gilder of Norfolk, VA and a great granddaughter, Caroline.

Kay’s family will receive friends Saturday, December 5, 2020 from 2:00 until 4:00 PM at Oxley-Heard Funeral Directors in Fernandina Beach. On Monday, December 7, 2020 the family will receive friends from 12:00 PM until 2:00 PM at Wages and Sons Funeral Home, 1040 Main St., Stone Mountain, GA 30083. A graveside funeral service will follow at Melwood Cemetery in Stone Mountain at 2:30 PM.

In her memory, the family asks that donations be made to St. Michael’s Catholic Church in Fernandina Beach.


Visitation: December 7, 2020 12:00 pm - December 7, 2020 2:00 pm

Wages & Sons Stone Mountain Chapel
1040 Main Street
Stone Mountain, GA 30083


Room: A&B

Graveside Service: December 7, 2020 2:30 pm - December 7, 2020 3:00 pm

Melwood Cemetery
5170 E Ponce de Leon Ave
Stone Mountain, GA 30083


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  1. I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying the God of all comfort helps you at this difficult time. (Psalms 83:18 & 2 Corinthians 1:3,4). Jesus told us to pray for God’s Kingdom because the Bible promises it will end tears pain and death. (Revelation 21:3-5 & Daniel 2:34).

  2. CandleImageKay was a wonderful person. I am so grateful for all the loving memories I have of her. Despite living several states away, I cannot think of one major event in our family where she was not present. She will be deeply missed and remembered with love. Prayers of peace and comfort for the Gilder and Perkins family; I wish I could be there in person to honor her life with you.

  3. CandleImageKay was my first friend I met in Fernandina. She was thoughtful and kind and funny. I enjoyed walking with her and Maggie Mae and our chats along the way years back. So saddened to know she is gone. I know she will be missed by so many.

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