Charles Sanford Wilder, Jr, 75, of Lawrenceville, GA passed away Thursday, April 16, 2015. He was preceded in death by his son, David Montgomery Wilder; parents, Charlie S. Wilder and Gertrude Montgomery Wilder; and sister, Maudine Wilder Hickman. He is survived by his wife of 56 years, Shirley Crowe Wilder; daughters, Michele Wilder Atkins & husband, Charles, and Meredith Wilder Retter & husband, Matthew; grandchildren, Dominique Wilder, Charlie Wilder Reed & husband, Alex, Mallory Retter, Meagan Retter, Lexi Atkins, Emily Atkins, Molly Retter; great grandchildren, Luke King, Clarke Reed, Audrey Reed; sister, Erma Wilder Johnson; and numerous nieces & nephews. Charles was a native of Gwinnett County and received the first scholarship in Gwinnett County to play class A football and chose Clemson University. He served on numerous boards for growth & development in Gwinnett County. Charles was a loving, devoted husband, father, and Papa. A funeral service will be held at 1:00 pm, Saturday, April 18, 2015 at Wages & Sons Gwinnett Chapel with Rev. Jessica Terrell officiating. Interment will follow at Gwinnett Memorial Park. Flowers are accepted, or those desiring may make a donation, in memory of Charles, to the Gwinnett Children’s Shelter, 3850 Tuggle Rd., NE, Buford, GA 30519 or Bethesda United Methodist Church, 444 Bethesda Church Rd., Lawrenceville, GA 30044. The family will receive friends from 6:00-8:00 pm, Friday, April 17, 2015 at Wages & Sons Gwinnett Chapel, 1031 Lawrenceville Hwy, Lawrenceville, GA 30046, 770-277-4550. Online condolences may be expressed at

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  1. Charles was not only my past employer, but he was a man that I admired for his devotion to family, his friends, and his faith. His imprint on these would be hard to equal.. It would be hard to list all the things that he did for the community, his friends, and family; but he set the bar very high. He will be missed by all of us that had the fortune to know this man.

  2. Michelle and family, I am so sorry. I know how hard this is and I want you to know I am thinking of you and praying for comfort for you. God bless you.

  3. What a loss….but no more suffering for Mr. Charles. We offer our deepest sympathy to the whole Wilder family.


    Mark & Laura Cooper

  4. Well, I know you will miss him Sandy.. As well the rest of his family. I know he is glad to be with Monty…He must have been a good Dad, because Month was such a good person…

  5. How sad a man of his wisdom and love has gone. He has touched so many life’s. As his family greaves know you all were blessed to have had a Man to lead your family. May God comfort you and continue to Bless your family.
    All The Kenerly’s

  6. We are saddened to hear about Charles. Please know we are lifting you in our prayers and holding you close in our hearts. Loving you, Sabrina and Curt

  7. I am so sorry to hear about Charles. He was a good person. I had the pleasure of working for him many years ago and have known your family for years. I know he will leave a hole in the lives of the many people who knew him and most especially in the lives of his family. May God comfort all of you today and in the days ahead.

  8. I am sorry to hear of the passing of Mr. Wilder. Although I did not know him I heard many great things about him from Charlotte Cates. Michelle, our prayers go out to you and your family. The Pevy family.

  9. My prayers go to entire family — Shirley, let God carry you thru this difficult time and grant you strength, peace and comfort. What a blessing to have known Charles — a “good man” gone home.

  10. So sorry to hear of Mr. Charles passing, know that you are in our hearts and prayers at this time. He fought a long fight, but now is at peace with no pain and suffering. I guess we find consolation in knowing that he is now smiling down on you from above!

  11. Sorry to hear of Charles passing. I cherish our friendship and fond memories. He was always friendly and courteous in both business, and social life. He will be missed greatly. We know He is in a better place with no more pain. You and family have our sympathy.

  12. Charles was one of the greatest men I have ever known and worked for. I have always had so much respect for him. He was a kind and gentle man with a huge heart for others. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the family. May they find comfort in knowing that Charles is now resting in the arms of Jesus. God Bless you, Charles, and Godspeed.

  13. Michele and Family, Our heartfelt condolences for your loss. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. May you find comfort in knowing he is home with Christ. God bless you and ease your sorrow, Lila and Paul

  14. Our sympathy and prayers to your family. May your hearts receive this healing light ! We will surely miss seeing him at the farm! He will always be there with you in spirit!

  15. Please accept our deepest sympathy. You are in our thoughts and prayers and we are so very sorry for your loss.

  16. As a young boy in Lawrenceville, GA – I was greatly influenced by Charles and Shirley Wilder. Our youth group at Bethesda Methodist church had several wonderful times at the Wilder home. Monty was a friend of mine from elementary school until I moved away to Florida in 1976 at age 16. While my mind is not very strong any longer, I still have very strong and fond memories of all of the Wilder family. I am truly sorry that the earth lost such a wonderful man, and even more sorry that Shirley and the rest of the family lost a wonderful husband, dad and poppa. My prayers are with you all during this time.

  17. Revelation 21:4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed awa

  18. Shirley, I am so sorry for your loss. Charles was a true friend and gentleman. He went too soon and I will miss him.
    We grew up together in the Bethesda community along with Hinton Mauldin & Douglas Garner. We pilfered watermelons, skinny dipped in water holes, played cow-pasture football, attended vacation bible school, attended auto races and played league softball together. We were friends. My memories of all three of these men are only good. Charles’ passing leaves a void in my life.
    May God welcome him with open arms.

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